I don't have time for that...
One of the core parts of my work, after a session, is to give suggestions on habits or practices to try to help people integrate what came up.
For example, if we’re talking about jaw pain, it may be a breathing practice or spending time intentionally relaxing the jaw.
If we’ve connected to a feeling of unworthiness, it may be a habit that reinforces a feeling of worthiness.
If the body has helped release a fear around prioritising ourselves, it may be to spend time caring for/prioritising ourself.
A very normal response to ‘can you try to do this thing?’ is: ‘I don’t have time for that.’
And it’s understandable, especially if it’s asking you to do something that you’ve recently released feelings about, there will still be some resistance there.
What I’d like to talk to you about today is taking a pause when you notice your response of ‘I don’t have time for that’.
Instead of breezing past the suggestion, waving it away like a fly with ‘I don’t have time for that’, stop and ask yourself ‘What is the version of this I could do?’
What is the tiniest version of this, and can I do that?
For example, with jaw pain, maybe you wear a rubber band and each time you see it you breathe and try to let go/unclench your jaw.
If you’re trying to work on a worthiness thing, the tiniest thing might be to just catch a thought when you can and counter it with ‘but I AM worth this’.
Or if it’s caring for yourself, it might be spending a minute putting lotion on in the evening, or drinking the right amount of water.
While it’s absolutely true that some people have literally zero capacity to add something in to their life, there are also a lot of people who use that phrase as a reason to avoid having to do something that feels hard.
At the end of the day, you know your life the best.
I’ll just ask you to take a minute the next time you hear something that might be a solution to your problem, taht feels like it might be something useful or helpful, and if the ‘I don’t have time for that’ or ‘I don’t have the capacity for that’ comes up…
Take a moment and try to think of what the tiniest version of that thing is that you can try, and do that.
I’d love to know what that might be for you.
Or, if you’re stuck and want some ideas, let me know in a comment below, and I’ll help come up with ideas.
If you feel like this is something you’d be better at if you had a better connection or relationship to your body, I’d love to help you build that relationship.
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