Part 2: How The Need for Certainty Hurts Us

In case you’re not coming from Part 1, in this series we’re looking at our desire/attachment to certainty, and whether perhaps instead of searching for certainty, we should be getting comfortable with uncertainty. Part 1 looked at why certainty is so alluring – how certainty from spiritual leaders make them seem so… enlightened; How certainty […]

Part 1: The Allure (or Obsession) with Certainty

the problem with certainty - defining our terms

Part 1: The Allure (or Obsession?) with Certainty Do you ever feel like you’d feel so much better – about your life, your work, your self, your relationship, *insert blank here* if you just had more… Certainty.  Does it sometimes feel like the people who know what they’re doing – the successful business owners, the […]

My Shift into Spirituality

ID: purple background with 'my shift into spirituality' in white cursive lettering and 'and what that means' in brackets underneath

pre-s: For some reason, this has been a long and challenging piece to write – in part I believe because this is an area of continual learning and evolution and a nuanced topic. This will likely need to be updated in future as and when my perspective shifts, but for now I think it’s time […]

Wrestling with Surrender

Back when I still did ‘word of the year’ (which, to be fair was like 2018 and 2019 before I abandoned the concept), one of my words was ‘Surrender’. Surrender is a funny word. It sounds like giving up, like an absence of action. But if you’re someone who was trained by life that you’re […]

The Truth about Healing Is in the Middle

Looking at the conversations around healing, we’re often confronted by two extremes.  The truth, as it often is, is more nuanced and somewhere in the middle. In today’s article, I’m sharing the two extremes I often see in the healing dialogue, and then look at what I believe to be truth – which is somewhere […]

Anger Before Forgiveness

‘You’re a better person than I am,’ she told me, as I shared relief and disbelief that I had finally let go of the pain and the anger and blame that I had carried from my mother for so many years. She too had a – let’s say, challenging relationship with her mother (to put […]

A Little-Known Cause of Body Pain

Today’s topic is tricky; I want to talk about pain. I want to talk about pain – specifically, one of the causes of body pain that many people aren’t aware of, but in my experience can often be the missing key when people are trying so many things and not quite getting there. First, a […]

Internal Intuition or External Expertise

The False Binary Series – #1 To be honest, I don’t know if this is going to be a series (so, I may delete this and the heading at some point).  It does seem, though, that there are a lot of false binaries in our world – which leads to a lot of oversimplification and […]

The Unspoken Grief of Life

When we’re young, we get a lot of the messaging ‘You can do whatever you set your mind to’ – or some variation of that. We may be told we can do whatever job we want. We may be told we can get married and have children. We may have been told we could buy […]

Sorry, Quantum Physics Doesn’t Prove Manifesting

Sorry Joe Dispenza, Quantum Physics Doesn't Prove Manifestation

Did you know that quantum physics proves that manifestation is real, and that all we need to do is use our energy, thoughts and consciousness to collapse the reality we want in front of us? I’ll admit, when I first heard that there was a doctor (aka someone with a degree in what they were […]